Are You Trying to Manage Your Multiple Sclerosis ? Then best to stop now if you ever want to recover.
In the book, “The Healing Code”, Dermott O’Connor tells the story of his client that was going to his clinic for treatment after an MS attack. O’Connor asked his client which side of his body was his “bad side”. His client confidently pointed out that he didn’t have a ‘bad side,’ he had “good side” and a “recovering side”. Why is that change in wording so essential to recovery from multiple sclerosis? Because of the action or inaction, it creates. Let me give you a few more examples:
Living with MS
Telling yourself and others that you are “Living with MS” can be detrimental. Why? Say those words to yourself right now and answer the following: Is there a sense of empowerment? A sense of hope of improvement? Drive for change? Direction? Motivation? Probably not. There is acceptance but no direction for recovery.
Managing Your MS Symptoms
What about when you are managing your MS symptoms? What are you telling yourself, neurolinguistically? And how does that influence outcome and expectation?
To give you an example that might be easier to understand, imagine if we were trying to lose weight. Does practicing “weight management” let us know we will be successful and never have to look back at those old ways of being with and relating to food? How about managing overeating or living with weight issues. Dreadful aren’t they?
Broken Immune System
What if we were to justify to ourselves and others that we have weight issues because “we have a bad metabolism”. Brilliant solution to our weight problem. Blame something you have no control over. Would you agree that isn’t helpful? Would you also agree that saying you have a weak side, a broken immune system, are unlucky, or it runs in your family, does nothing to help us find the means necessary to improve health and kick MS to the curb?
So now what?
Changing How We See MS
To become empowered and recover from MS we must stop the blame game.
Returning to our example: Would we blame our weight issues on food? The food did it! Some people will but it’s not accurate. Andrew Austin, who does neurolinguistic programming (NLP) trainings for weight loss, would have the front desk in is classes covered in sweet pies, cakes, and donuts on the first day of his weight loss training. Everyone would come into the class and be appalled! Why do you think he did that? He did that because the food is not to blame. The problem is the relationship to it, the behaviors around it, and the emotional issues that food masks. Work on those issues, put the responsibility back us, and not the food, genes, etc and we have a chance of creating the necessary changes to keep ourselves slim and healthy no matter how many donuts are in the room.
So what if we did the same with MS? What if we stopped blaming the immune system and its reaction to our nervous system? What if we took full responsibility for finding solutions to everything that is causing our bodies to express disease? That is what the Creating Health series wants – to give as many effective solutions to reversing multiple sclerosis from the inside out. It’s not guaranteed but its not wishful thinking either. Recovery from multiple sclerosis is about being proactive. By addressing all aspects that could be causing our bodies to MS, we have the greatest chance, no matter how crummy our immune system is, of becoming healthy and resilient.
Recovery from MS
Your job is to use all the information on the different techniques and modalities out there that have helped others heal their MS, and find your ideal combination. My job, in this post and this month’s Creating Health Series, is to help you change your mindset concerning MS so that you feel motivated and believe that recovery from multiple sclerosis is possible.
“If you believe you can or if you believe you can’t, you are probably right.” – Henry Ford
Currently, even though you might be interested in healing and have tried a few modalities, you probably don’t believe you can recover. That is why so many give up so easily. So the first step in recovering from multiple sclerosis is believing it can be possible. Any objections?
Do You Really Want to Recover from MS?
To move from managing to recovery mindset, we must first remove any obstacles from the idea of healing from MS. That means, address any subtle objections to not having MS.
- Ask yourself if there are reasons why you might not want to heal from MS. Be 100% honest with yourself. Why are some of your symptoms convenient to hold on to. If you are 100% honest, you will find some reasons to keep some of your MS.
- Find alternative ways to achieve what MS provides and then move on to the next step.
Some examples of obstacles to healing MS: fear of losing disability pay, a great excuse to say “no” to things you don’t want to do, permission to not be successful all the time, permission to take care of yourself, and a means to control your environment.
The Healing MS Mindset
NLP is the study of successful mindset structures. An NLP practitioner helps the client discover HOW they are doing the problem and then helps them discover HOW to no longer do the problem. Sounds strange doesn’t it? At the moment our problem is we’ve bought into the belief mindset that MS is an “incurable disease that will only get worse”. And that mindset helps to keep the disease in place. We want to change that mindset to one of recovery. This new mindset will open up possibilities and give us the motivation to go beyond managing and into actively creating health.
The Recovery from Multiple Sclerosis Mindset
- Take a moment to close your eyes and thinking about your multiple sclerosis. How do you think about “what will happen to you?” How do you think about recovery from MS?
- Now take a moment to think about something that you know you will recover from. Some examples would be healing from a broken ankle, healing from a burn, or from the flu. How do you think about “what will happen to you?” How do you think about recovery from that issue?
- Think about these two issues simultaneously and notice what are the differences in how you think about MS and how you think about something you know you will recover from?
- Change how you think about MS into the exact way of thinking about the issue you know you will recover from.
- From this recovery from multiple sclerosis mindset, think about what you will do to support your healing.
This is one of the processes used in the Healing Multiple Sclerosis Program. This process was adapted from Connierae Andreas “Engage Your Bodies Natural Ability to Heal”. You can find the entire process in detail and demonstrations of its use in “Heart of Mind.”